Compatibility

  • Do we get along
  • What are goals & passions
  • Are we aligned

Defining & Communicating Relationship Needs

  • List “Non-Negotiables”
  • List “How We Get To A Ten?”
  • List “Would Be Nice”

Relationship Anxiety

never knowing where you stand trying to be what the other wants never knowing what other person wants, or who you should be never understanding “why I cant be me?”

Women worry how much time their men will give them, while men worry how much time their women will take

Contempt

Contempt is dangerous to a relationship. If you want a relationship to last, never tolerate contempt from either person. If a person says something contemptuous, the other person calls it out immediately. Because both people have the understanding about contempt, use as escape hatch to conflict. Cut things off before they become hurtful.

Bids

https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/


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