Life Learnings & Advice to Myself

Links & Resources https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/HJeD6XbMGEfcrx3mD/100-ways-to-live-better https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25513713#25516108 - Things you’re allowed to do Unsorted identify and destroy small-return bullshit; shut off anything that’s noisier than it is useful; make brutally fast decisions about what I don’t need to be doing; avoid anything that feels like fake sincerity (esp. where it may touch money); demand personal focus on making good things; put a handful of real people near the center of everything....

Last updated: 2021-06-01 by JRO
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Affirmations

I am intelligent and capable I believe in my abilities I value my opinions Positive feedback I have heard directly from people I admire and trust: “You’re a good person and people like you.” Links & Resources https://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/m66kl7/method_affirmations_can_do_wonders_when_it_comes/ https://www.reddit.com/r/nevillegoddardsp/comments/hrhfue/what_are_some_of_your_favorite/

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Balance

Appreciate the good stuff Cannot please everyone that walks in Be a good Parent to your kids

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Control

my attempt at completely controlling my life had, in fact, caused me to lose control over it. stoicism. If it’s outside your control, don’t bother too much. Face your challenges and do the best you can, being a better you. grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-17613/10-signs-fear-is-running-your-life-and-how-to-get-back-on-track.html

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Distractions

Understand What is the trigger How much time per week does it take up What are outcomes & impact - positive and negative Beneficial alternatives Top distractions HN Reddit Instagram Facebook

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Ethics

https://milan.cvitkovic.net/writing/ethics/

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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How to ask someone what's bothering them

Questions Hey, are you OK? I got the sense that something wasn’t right on the last couple interactions - I noticed that you were quiet, reserved, irritated. Is there anything you want to talk about? If there’s anything I’ve done to cause this, please let me know so we can address it directly. I am always here for you bro if you need me, & you can trust me with anything....

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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How to Define Personal Goals

Wisdom “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” -Steve Jobs How to make actionable goals Identify goal groups, according to Maslows Hierarchy of needs...

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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How to Establish Routines

https://supermemo.guru/wiki/Natural_creativity_cycle

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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How to get into a Good Mood

Music Listen to “Da Funk” daft punk with good hedphones Put on Good Mood Playlist Watch david byrne, stop making sense vid Drugs Smoke a J Food Eat mandarin oranges Activities space rub the dogs

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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How to Give Advice

Goal other person feeling heard and understood by you. they know that you’ll be there for them with a listening ear and you’re willing to help if they are looking for any Instead of saying “You should ______”, try saying “What’s worked for me in the past is ______” People who are suffering aren’t always inclined to the most charitable interpretation of what you say. ask up-front whether they just needed to vent or if they wanted advice....

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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How to Improve Communication

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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How to Make Decisions

Deciding List out: Situation & Context Goals + “5 Whys” Challenges, blockers, concerns Assumptions –> Open Questions -> Who can answer? Costs: Time, money, attention People / Who’s involved Important Dates Choices Ask someone - maybe there are other choices Reduce to 3 choices Evaluate Choices. For each choice: Pros / Benefits Satisficing vs Maximizing Cons / Drawbacks Nth-order thinking “and then…”, “results in…” Outcomes What’s the impact for different time ranges Tomorrow Next week Next month Next year 5 years Looking back on death bed How does this affect other people you care about in your life?...

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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How to Understand Emotions and Feelings

https://www.thegoodtrade.com/features/journal-prompts

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Improve Self-Confidence

Define persona, self image Daily affirmations

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Learning Journal Template

Quick Links (Links) Journal YYYY-MM-DD Questions (Top of mind questions) Prior knowledge (What I knew before) Learned (What I learned) Enjoyed (Enjoyable moments) Challenges (What was tough for me) Ideas / Insights (Ideas) Accomplishments / Outcomes (I can now…) Next / Focus (3 items to focus on next) Practice (How to practice/refinforce) Expert Feedback (Feedback from Expert) Resources Media (Photos, video) Notes (Notes)

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Life Areas / Categories

Personal Fitness Dogs Family Social Entertainment Creative Volunteer Mind, Body, Soul Career, Relationships, Home, Hobbies Security Autonomy/Control Status Privacy Attention Connecteness Intimacy Competence/Achivement meaning/purpose 8 Life Areas https://www.universalcoachingsystems.com/thrive-know-your-life-areas/ Career/Business Finances & Wealth Friends & Family Fun, REceration, & Entertainment Health & Fitness Love Life Personal/SPiritual Development Physical Environment 12 Life areas https://www.thedesigncoach.com.au/post/the-12-areas-of-life-balance Love Relationship Friendships Adventures Environment Health & Fitness Intellectual Life Skills Spiritual Career Creative Family Community Vision statements Create vision statements for each area Resources https://www....

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Life Skill Tree

Categories

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Life Stack

Challenges Goals not clear Feeling frazzled Directionless Goal state I have a plan for this day, week, month, quarter, year, decade, life Tools Journal Planner Apps Notes Why take notes? How to take notes? How to use notes? Environment Music Clean Diet Feedback Retros Goals Manifesting Do you know your goals? Outcomes “To Done” Learning Researching Prioritization Home Health Money Vehicles Routines Why Routines?...

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Listening

https://hbr.org/1957/09/listening-to-people https://www.happyandauthentic.com/how-to-get-anyone-to-connect-with-you-on-a-subconscious-level/?doing_wp_cron=1624978603.5698349475860595703125

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Mental models

https://fs.blog/mental-models/

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Non-Violent Communication

Observations: things that are objectively observable Feelings: your feelings about them Needs: the needs you want met Requests: a proposal as to how you want your needs met

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Organization

Organizing Papers From: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29173773 Three-hole punch, pocket folders with brads in the spine, and three-ring binders. Each folder gets labeled with its subject, and everything relevant to the subject gets hole-punched and added to the folder. When the content outgrows the folder it gets moved into a binder that gets labeled on the spine. Documents sent digitally get printed and treated the same way. For sheets that can’t be hole-punched like a birth certificate or a car title, I use either the pockets in the folder or plastic page protectors that can go into the binder....

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Past Year Review

https://tim.blog/2021/12/27/past-year-review/ Grab a notepad and create two columns: POSITIVE and NEGATIVE. Go through your calendar from the last year, looking at every week. For each week, jot down on the pad any people or activities or commitments that triggered peak positive or negative emotions for that month. Put them in their respective columns. Once you’ve gone through the past year, look at your notepad list and ask, “What 20% of each column produced the most reliable or powerful peaks?...

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Personal Assistant

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29336234

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Personality types

https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-principle-or-the-office-according-to-the-office/ Human Design Ray Dalio

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Primal Human Drives

love healthy happiness sex food fear

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Prioritization

https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html#needs7 Prioritization Core Air Food Water Shelter Warmth Sex Sleep Safety Environment Security Clean Order Stability Fear Self Hygiene Locomotion Belonging Friendship Intimacy Acceptance Love Social Esteem Independence Appreciation Being Valued / Being seen Inspiration Beauty Art Music Becoming Passion Purpose Service Help Others Teaching Environment Nature Maslov Personal (hygiene) Showered Haircut scheduled Food Got Groceries Meals prepped Exercise Stretched Walked dogs Biked Used Rowing machine Tidy home Bed made Dishes done Laundry put away Plan day / week Journaled Medical / Health Scheduled doctors appointments Vehicle Scheduled checkups Unblocked others Checked Email Checked Chat UpWork Checked Slack Music & Dance Played piano Practiced salsa combo Definitions Important Not Important Urgent Not Urgent Triage Important Urgent Description: Actions with clear deadlines, Consequences for inaction Examples: _ Action: Do immediately Not Urgent Description: Actions which Bring you closer to long term goals Examples: Planning, time with family, exercise Actions: Decide when Schedule it in calendar Notes Consider building into a routine Not Important Urgent Not Urgent

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Reiki

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Retrospective

What happened What went right Whet went wrong Why Lessons learned

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Self Image

Links & Resources https://www.reddit.com/r/lawofattraction/comments/k8n36a/learn_why_your_selfimage_is_key_to_manifest/ Self concept: https://www.reddit.com/r/NevilleGoddard/comments/hv9yxu/selfconcept_and_why_its_the_key/ https://kajsotala.fi/2017/07/how-i-found-fixed-the-root-problem-behind-my-depression-and-anxiety-after-20-years/

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Self-Awareness

Questions What am I good at? What gives me energy? What takes energy away from me? What puts me in a good mood? What activities give me purpose? What do I not like doing? What scares me to death? What motivates me? How do I want others to see me? Why do I want others to see me that way? What amount of sleep makes me feel refreshed? What kind of food do I seem to be happier after eating?...

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Things to do when boerd

Anki spanish Audiobook Review todos Read book Read spanish news Draw Journal

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Understanding yourself

Emotional Traits Active Cheerful Craetive Genius Gloomy Goofball Hot-headed Romantic -Self-assured Hobby Traits Art Book Food Geek Maker Music Perfectionist Lifestyle Adventur Aspirations Life goals.

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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Virtues

Paradiso is based on the four cardinal virtues (Prudence, Justice, Temperance, and Fortitude) and three theological virtues (Faith, Hope, and Charity).

Last updated: 2022-03-18 by JRO
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