“16 Personalities” MBTI
- ENFJ-T “Protagonist”
- ENFP-A “Campaigner”
- Finds fulfillment in helping other people. Core mission: Improving people’s lives
- Creativity & Drive and uplift others
- Motivated to help others learn, grow, become independent
- Core ideals: Doing the right thing, leaving the world better than found it
- Don’t respect people who take shortcuts, disrespects others, refuses to challenge status quo
- Lead by example; day-to-day lives; handle situations with compassion, dedication, care
- Creative builder
- Good side of Personality: Sincerity, integrity, idealism, versatile, insightful, kind hearted, trustworthy, reliable, receiptive, passionate, altruistic
- Weakness: Feeling of unappreciated, frustrated, resentful, spread too thin, taking on too much, condescending, patronizing, intense, overly empathetic. Approval-seeking, overly sensitive, indecisive, overprotective.
- Fascinated by other worldviews
- Pick up on peoples underlying motivations & beliefs
- Discover quirks, opinions, hopes
- Want to make friends feel: Supportive, validated, heard, understood
- Trusted to show up, take the time
- Mutual growth, acceptance, compassion, respect
- Search for common ground
- Prefer: challenges, collaboration
- Avoid: Repetitive, isolated
- Do best in careers where they get to help other people and spend a great deal of time interacting with others. Because of their strong communication and organizational skills, ENFJs
- Want to fall in love with soul
- Dependable, trustworthy, committed partner
- Learns about & Supports partner’s aspirations & Dreams
- Greatest joy is helping partner reach their goals
Advice to JRO
- Suggested careers: Social work, teaching, counseling, coaching, healthcare, public interest law
- Leadership: Public office, non-profits, start-ups, consultants, advisors
- Go to bed before tired, wind down
- Avoid taking on partners goals as their own, pressure, partner feels need to change; encourge, don’t push
- ENFJs are organized and enjoy structure and careful planning. Sticking to a predictable schedule helps ENFJs feel in control of the world around them.
- You cannot control the correct direction of your life by using a “rational” mental decision based approach. Your mind will actively guide you towards a life that ultimately will prove to be unsatisfying.
- Trust that life itself has its plan for you and that it will unfold in its own natural timing as something that you are uniquely equipped to respond to.
- Learn to respond to life from the “gut.” Frustrations are eliminated from their lives and are replaced with a deep feeling of satisfaction
- Generators usually initiate action because they are fearful that nothing will happen otherwise. And this is the trap that enslaves them. If the Generator has the courage to wait they will learn very quickly that this fear is unfounded.
- All things will come to the Generator in their own timing – they do not need to initiate action to try and make things happen.
- Generators are designed to flow in the “now” with the current of life, taking their cues for action as they appear. Generators are not here to worry about the future. Their correct future will come automatically if they respond in the “now” to what life gives to them.
- One big sign that Generators should watch out for as an indication that they are responding and operating correctly is “synchronicity”: Things just magically start happening or appearing in their life automatically. They appear to be “lucky”.
- Often, Generators find themselves involved in projects or are committed to someone or something that does not really hold their interest or bring them fulfilment. They are just doing it because it seems like someone has to do it and they are the one with the energy. Of course, they get intensely frustrated, being the slave for someone else, giving away their power wholesale to whoever asks.
- The Sacral Center can only respond in the moment with a “yes” or “no” answer. It doesn’t use words to convey these answers. It delivers sounds from deep inside the stomach area. These sounds are like grunts or growls which, when you can interpret this “yes” or “no” sound, leads the Generator to make correct decisions for their life. The Generators job is to start to notice these sacral grunts and realise that they are your response mechanism. The Generator strategy for living their life is to wait to respond.
- Some Generators become confused about the word “wait”, but when you are awake and noticing all that is going on around you, waiting simply means listening to your sacral response before you act.
- Generators are the workers and can become slaves if they do not listen to their Sacral Center. A Manifestor will always initiate and expect the Generator to be his “do-er”. A Projector will try to latch on to that Generator power in a similar way.
- Generators must remember to check with their Sacral Center before they consent to just “do” what the Manifestor, Projector or any other type suggests. They must become aware and stop living on “auto-pilot”. That is why the Generator is considered to be a natural slave. They sleep walk into giving their energy away to everyone else, instead of listening to their inner wisdom; their Sacral Center.
- Most Generators are living a repetitive toil of “the daily grind”; just trudging on with making a living. But they always have a gnawing discontentment and frustration within them that they are here for another purpose. All a Generator needs to do is respond correctly and their purpose will find them.
- Abraham Maslow
- Barack Obama
Dating / Compatibility
The two personality types that are considered the best matches for the ENFP-A Campaigners are INTJ and INFJ
Tips for Dating as an ENFP
- Stop trying to please people and learn to value your own needs as well. Don’t adjust your actions or opinions to gain approval or conform to groups. This behavior may help your dating life in the short term, but in the long run it will sabotage your ability to find a mate you’re truly compatible with.
- Avoid dating Sensors. In the short term they will be drawn to your creativity, spontaneity, and all round fun attitude, but you will never be able to communicate with one another on a higher level.
- ENFPs can be overly enthusiastic. In the early stages of a relationship, avoid making gushy or smothering comments during the moments you just happen to feel something strong. You may turn some partners off and you may give other partners unrealistic expectations about how strongly you feel for them.
- ENFPs have a strong dislike of conflict, criticism, and confrontation. You will benefit from developing your ability to handle conflict. The only way to do this is with baby steps, one awkward conversation at a time.
- You may set very high expectations for yourself and your partner. Just remember: Everyone is human, and no partner or relationship will be perfect. Don’t be too hard on your partner or yourself.
- If you’re after a “perfect” relationship, take time to check in with your partner on this. Does he or she share your same high expectations and willingness to work on the relationship? If so, is their vision of a “perfect” relationship the same as yours? Communication around your goals and desires is essential to avoid conflict and disappointment.
- Take time to study successful relationships. ENFPs tend to buy into the idea of fairy tale romance and the existence of a perfect relationship. While romantic, this isn’t always the most realistic view. Long term relationships often take work, compromise, and personal development to succeed. On a positive note, this belief encourages some ENFPs to work hard at creating a great relationship. On a negative note, some ENFPs may be too quick to jump ship when challenges arise. This stems from the fairy tale idea that “if we are perfect for each other then we wouldn’t have any problems or challenges.”
Tips for Dating an ENFP
- ENFPs are affectionate, lively, caring, and fun partners. Although they love novelty and can “date around,” their desire to be authentic means if they commit to a relationship they mean it and will be loving and loyal. If you learn to work with their weaknesses, you may find yourself in a very happy and fulfilling relationship.
- If you find yourself dating an immature ENFP, be prepared for a fun and laughter-filled relationship… and not much else.
- ENFPs are highly intuitive and will see through most lies and artificial (i.e., fake) behavior. If you’re dishonest or inauthentic they will know and you’ll lose their respect.
- In some areas ENFPs are excellent communicators, but they dislike conflict, criticism, and confrontation. This means they are uncomfortable and often unpracticed with certain kinds of discussions. As their partner, you need to be aware of this and may need to be the one to initiate uncomfortable or difficult conversations. They may initially be hesitant to put their emotions on the table, but you can encourage them by using an open and non-judgmental tone.
- ENFPs are fun, spontaneous, and adventurous. Fighting this instinct will only cause you problems. Your best option is to embrace and enjoy it. Remember, being playful or funny is not a sign of immaturity. The ability to balance serious pursuits with a childlike playfulness is a sign of wisdom.
- ENFPs are not organized, keen on schedules, or otherwise interested in repetitive or mundane work. If you want to build a life with an ENFP, you must accept this and accept them. Develop systems, hire help, or take responsibility for the details of your life together.
- It’s important to remember that we don’t choose our personality traits. Yes, ENFPs can develop their Te and become better organized, but it will never be as easy for them as it is for many other types. Because of this, it is not wise to judge their effort or desire by their results.
- ENFPs can be overly enthusiastic, so when they express their feelings for you always take it with a grain of salt. Judge them more by their actions than their words. This is especially important in the early stages of a relationship.
- ENFJs are excellent partners and lovers. Value yourself and what you bring to the table. Take time to access those you date and determine if they can match your standards of loyalty or affection.
Tips for Dating an ENFJ
- ENFJs are affectionate and warm with their actions and their words. If you want to keep your partner happy, be sure you reciprocate in kind and lay on the love with your words and actions.
- Small gestures can go a long way. Surprise your partner with a single rose or a few sweet words on a card and you will fill their heart with joy for hours.
- ENFJs idealize relationships and their partners. They aren’t happy with “normal” and will strive to create an exceptional relationship. This is important for you to know for two reasons:
- To be happy dating an ENFJ you will both need to invest time in growing as people and growing your relationship.
- Sometimes you may need to remind your ENFJ partner that you, and they, are only human. This can help give them perspective over little fights, ups and downs in the relationship, or your (or their) screw-ups.